So seriously, why would any sane man— with a full-time job, and a lawn to mow, and a house payment— why would he even consider homeschooling?In this episode, Christopher and Heather discuss the overarching reason behind pursuing homeschooling, and why it matters so very much.
One objection dads in homeschooling families often have to getting more involved is finding something they feel qualified to teach. In this episode, Christopher and Heather talk about God’s plan for your skills and passions (hint: He wants you to pass them on!) and how it’s never too late to learn a foreign language.
Sonlight Curriculum A complete, literature-based curriculum.
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Dad has agreed that homeschooling is at least worth a try. But what’s next? Homeschooling parents Christopher and Heather Schwarzen discuss the importance of buy-in, how to encourage dad’s full participation, and what to do when conference time rolls around.
Is your wife staging homeschool catalogs on the coffee table? Has she suddenly started pointing out the homeschooling families at church? Or have you given a reluctant go-ahead to a trial year of homeschooling, but are still wondering if this is a good idea? Christopher and Heather Schwarzen share the beginnings of their own homeschool adventures as well as defusing some of the common reservations fathers have in pursuing this radically different, radically Biblical method of education.
I am at a loss. My older kids have events like musical performances and graduations coming up. I (obviously) really want to be there, but my littles are pretty much guaranteed to steal the show—and not in a good way. How do you fully embrace these milestone moments when half of you is trying to keep a toddler from causing a scene?
First of all, I fully feel your pain. I have gazed into the not-so-distant future and realized that there’s a very real chance I might be nursing a baby while one of my older daughters is trying on wedding gowns! There’s not very much out there in society that prepares you for this level of straddle parenting— which is why this site exists in the first place!
And while we haven’t given a daughter in marriage just yet, we have crossed a couple of those “once in a lifetime moments” for our older children with a little one in tow. Is it easy? Not always. But is it doable? With a little forethought, yes!
First, I urge you to honestly assess your situation. Chances are good if you’re like me you have a soft-focus image in your mind of how amazing and memorable that group shot is going to be when you and your whole brood cheer your big kid on. And maybe that’s true. But if it’s not— and it sounds like you’re pretty sure that’s the case— then reality is your friend. Don’t add stress and chaos to the event by forcing a little one to behave in a way that has never been possible in a situation with far less riding on it. You are only going to be disappointed and frustrated. If you don’t think you and your spouse can be fully present for the big doings, and you’re not wanting to trade off duty walking the littles outside, then it’s time to call in back up.
When our now-19 year-old daughter graduated from our homeschool in 2014, our youngest two were 3 years and 17 months old, respectively. On the practical side, both my husband and I had to be present on stage to hand her the diploma. On the heart side, neither of us wanted to miss a second of the ceremony celebrating the culmination of so much hard work. We could have left our teenage sons in charge and hoped for the best, but that still left us with the potential of needing to step in if the wheels fell off. Instead, we talked to my in-laws, who agreed to be in charge, leaving our hands (and minds) free to enjoy the graduation fully. They knew it might mean stepping out with a little one, but were willing to be the fully on duty kid keeper for the evening anyhow.
But what if you don’t have a relative on hand to run interference? First, check and see if any childcare is provided. Chances are good it isn’t, but you don’t know if you don’t ask. If nothing has been arranged, but there is a good location available for use and other families in need, see if you can arrange childcare for the group. It’s a long shot, but not unheard of at big events.
No on-site options? Time to hire a babysitter— to either tag along and sit in the stands with your family, ducking out if a meltdown begins, or to keep things under control at home, clear of the location altogether. While it doesn’t sound ideal (who wants to have to pay for someone to watch their kids while they’re standing right there? or to leave behind a child while another family member enjoys their moment in the sun?) the peace of mind will be well worth the cost. It’ll also preserve the memories for both you and your older child, who no doubt wants to see you smiling in background, not ducking out the door with a screaming toddler in tow.
If it’s just not possible to have your littles in the fray, try to include them in other ways. If the event will culminate with a celebratory dinner, swing back home to pick them (and the sitter) up for the meal. Arrange for some portion of the party to make it back to your house, so he or she can get a taste of the joy and be doted on by the gathered friends and family. Or just arrange a special time for your little one to be able to fete the older: maybe being in charge of making a card, popping a candle on some special breakfast cinnamon rolls, or decorating the older child’s bedroom door.
In the end, the idea is keeping your sanity and continuing to knit together your family’s fabric of togetherness. There are no cookie cutter ways to do that, so get creative and relax into what works for your specific circumstances.
Our family celebrates Advent. Not out of a command, but out of a need. We need to prepare our hearts for the awe, the wonder, and the majesty of Christmas. Advent is the tool that makes our celebration of Christ’s arrival deeper than a simple desire to say, “Jesus came! Hooray!”
Maybe you need Advent this year, too. Maybe you’ve never celebrated it, but the idea of actually longing for Christmas rather than counting down the days is something that pulls on your soul. Maybe you’ve had the kind of year that has left you more than a little weary, and the thought of throwing yourself into a holiday sounds like one more thing on your already too-long list of one more things. Maybe you find yourself, every year, with four days left until Christmas morning and wondering where the time has gone and how it always evaporates in a sea of cookie exchanges and ornament-making parties.
If so, I invite you to consider purchasing Experiencing Advent. Pulled from years of material I produced for my own family’s celebration, Experiencing Advent is designed to be flexible. Use it with Daddy around the breakfast table before he leaves for work. Set aside time during homeschooling to devote to the study. Make it part of your family Bible study. Use it in a way that best fits your family right now, in this season of life.
This isn’t a craft-heavy unit study that leaves your older kids drumming the table, waiting to be set loose. Neither is it a purely academic exercise that flies right over the heads of your littles. Activities are included, but optional. And the learning? While it’s not light stuff, it’s designed to be accessible to young ones while still offering plenty of room for the kind of rabbit trails that allow for real ownership of the knowledge.
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Experiencing Advent is in an ebook format for just $8.99. Start your journey towards a more meaningful season today. Prepare your heart for Jesus, and experience Advent!
How do you choose read-alouds that engage your older kids, are appropriate for all ages, yet don’t leave your youngest listeners behind?
We are a reading family. More than that, we are a read-aloud family. Some of the best memories of our times together center around a book, a pot of tea, and our coziest pjs. Over the years, we’ve read a good many tales out loud; our children will forever remember Pa Ingalls as sounding exactly like their own father, or Smaug the dragon hissing in their mother’s voice. As parents, we’ll never forget the look of heartbreak in the eyes of our kids as they’ve mourned Aslan or their giddy laughter as Milo makes his way through Dictionopolis.
But literature is a powerful, sometimes provocative thing. The adventures that ensnare the imaginations of our adolescents are often too tame for our teens; the social commentaries that wrest the deepest heart talks from our young adults are simply too mature for the minds of our young ones. How is a Straddle Parent to cross the divide and come to the other side a winner?
Our family has adopted a variety of methods to keep the tradition of reading aloud alive without leaning too far in one direction or the other. First has been simply having separate reading times when its warranted. Right now, for instance, Christopher is knee-deep in yet another read-through of the classic Little House series during our littles’ bedtime hour. After they’re tucked into bed, the teenagers and I gather to listen to him read again—this time from How to Ruin Your Life by 30, by Steve Farrar.
As you can see, it’s not just fiction we tackle here. We’ll read anything of value, from a field guide to sheep and their fleece to biographies of heroes of the faith. The lesson here? Don’t be boxed in. Look for something that will interest your family and go for it.
But what about keeping everyone together for a read-aloud? Is it even possible? With some work, yes. Our family uses references to choose “best bets.” Favorites include websites like Read-Aloud Revival, the 1000 Good Books List and Jim Trelease’s Read-Alouds Handbook list online. We also love the book lists available in Honey for a Child’s Heart and the companion volume, Honey for a Teen’s Heart, Read for the Heart: Whole Books for WholeHearted Families, Give Your Child the World: Raising Globally Minded Kids One Book at a Time, and Books Children Love.
Don’t have a list on hand as you’re trolling the library shelves? Stick with the classics if in doubt. We’ve found far fewer instances of objectionable or mature content in literature from days past—and as a bonus, plots and vocabulary are usually engaging enough to keep teens listening. My older kids especially love reliving the tales they remember best; announcing that a beloved title is next on the list is something like saying that a family friend is coming to visit.
Below you’ll find a list of titles mentioned above as well as some of our family’s favorites throughout the years for reading aloud to multiple ages. Share your favorites in the comments!
One of the questions we are asked most often is, “How do you homeschool high school?” In this podcast, Heather sits down with our homeschool’s first graduate, Mary Hannah, to talk high school, purpose, and tailoring an educational experience that allows your child to pursue their calling in life.
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We’re always looking for ways to promote generosity at our house, especially when it comes to money.
About 15 years ago, we began dropping our spare change into a tin canister that once held a watch.
Before we knew it, we had more than enough change to help a young woman raising support for full-time ministry. Hopefully, it was a blessing to her, but it certainly was a blessing to us.
Since the beginning, we’ve collected hundreds of dollars, and we decide as a family who or what to support.
We also keep a record of every donation we make. Nothing fancy, just a piece of scrap paper with a few scribbles as to the amount given and where it went.
It’s been fun to look at through the years, and it’s always an encouragement that a little change can go a long way.
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